Raise your hands, guys, if you go out looking for a wife on Saturday night. You don’t, do you? You definitely go out looking for girls, but you’re not looking for a lasting commitment. That’s not always the case with the girls, though.

It’s not altogether accurate to make blanket statements about human behavior, but in many ways we’re all alike. Men in general don’t think in terms of relationships, they think in terms of having sex. The relationship part of the equation doesn’t enter until they’re hopelessly in love. Ask any group of men if they have ever thought about solitaire engagement rings and they will just laugh.

Then go and ask a group of women if they have ever thought about princess cut engagement rings. Almost every girl has. Women, whether they like to admit it or not, want commitment from men. Men don’t want to think about it.

Nature must be very clever to have found a way to make men make a commitment to women. As if by magic, what started out as a simple affair turns into a full blown love affair. Suddenly a man is willing to throw away his freedom just to be with one woman. Some people even think falling in love is a form of insanity, but without it, life probably wouldn’t work.

There are no doubt biological imperatives in the whole process of mating. Before the age of birth control, if a woman had sex, she was in danger of getting pregnant. As a result, women were never as promiscuous as men. It was too dangerous. Therefore, women always put the commitment of marriage high on their list of priorities. While birth control has allowed women more freedom, it hasn’t changed their more basic need for security in a mate.

The mystery is why men don’t just take off when women get pregnant, but they don’t – at least not often. Even if you ignore the social taboos, men feel a gut sense that the baby is theirs as well and that they have to take care of it, even though a baby was the last thing on his mind when he was having sex.

Enjoy your Saturday nights while you can. You’re taking part in an ancient mating ritual. The girls exchange their girls sweatshirts for their sexiest outfits and the guys wear the coolest clothes they can find in their closets. You dance and flirt and get drunk and if you’re lucky, you get what you were looking for.

Then the day will come when you get more than you bargained for. You’ll give up your Saturday nights and stay at home and change your baby’s diapers. You’ll be happy to do so, too. That’s how life works. Just accept it.

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