How To Approach Women – Examples
Found a good article on approaching her the right way. Getting your nerve up to approach a hot woman is a lot easier if you know what you are going to say ahead of time. Study up on some approaches, watch some youtube videos for live examples of pick ups in progress.
The more you see what is going on and what works, the better your results will be.
This article shows some great examples and explains why you need to operate with some style and have a game plan.
Learn how to approach women the right way
If you’re after the knowledge of how to approach women then continue reading. Today I’m inviting you to come with me to a new world where women actually try to keep you talking to them and not the other way around.
You’re going to learn the right and wrong ways to approach women and a few timeless principles that will help you become the king of any room. At first, approaching women seems rather difficult. Read on, however, and I will show you how to do so with ease and confidence.
The Problem:
You don’t want to be the guy who makes the woman feel awkward or who comes on too hard.
Women are inundated with both of these kinds of guys. They hate these guys because they waste time, breed awkwardness and tension and act like everyone else.
A guy like this is not special and he’s not sweeping her off her feet. Worst of all, once he’s suspected of being one of these guys her defenses go up so that most of what he says will not emotionally stimulate her. In short, his manhood will have a lot more time to enjoy sitting there unused in his pants.
These guys are slow and misdirected. They’re jumping in the water to see if they’ll instantly develop swimming skills, even though they’ll most likely just run into a strong tide and end up sinking.
You’re going to learn how to approach women so that you’ll be jumping into a conversation fully equipped. You will be the submarine, not the castaway who fell overboard.
The How:
There are a variety of ways to approach women. All can work, but some only because you’re even approaching her at all and you’re going to pick up more women by talking amateurishly to them than by not talking at all.
This is effort. This wastes time. This is embarrassing.You need to be “counter-intuitive.” Counter-intuitiveness is one of the four overarching principles of our online and offline courses on how to approach women quickly.
Take her by surprise
This is the dating adaptation of Sun Tzu’s “Art of War’” principles. If you catch her unaware and unprepared you have the advantage because she will have no time to put up her defenses.
I like daytime pickups because women aren’t expecting to be approached, unlike when they’re in the club. Additionally I reap an average of five numbers per day during the 15 minutes I put aside on my 60 minute lunch break. I do this twice a week and have two dates a night.
You can learn to get a woman’s number in a minute and do this today on our site for free but this personal bit of information is not so important here; I’m just bragging to entice you to keep reading.
The Solution:
1) Shock her by what you say:
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Do you see how it can be really simple with just a bit of research and practice. Approaches take practice to get really good at them. The more you practice in real live action, the quicker you find what works for you. Just remember to have fun and not take things too seriously. You will blow many approaches, so get the bad ones out of the way quickly.
And don’t beat yourself up. This is all about getting experience in order to improve every week.
How To Handle The First Date if You Are Shy
This is a great article I found with 21 tips to overcome dating shyness on first dates. There are some good ideas here. Little things that can make a huge difference in your chances of success.
You might not notice your shoes, or the fact that you are way overdressed for the venue but she will. Just the simple act of knowing the place you are taking her will make a huge difference in how you are coming across to her.
If other people know you at the restaurant, it makes her more comfortable.
Here’s the article from blackbeltseduction.com:
First impressions can make or break a date, especially in a blind date set up by friends. For a lot of guys, one of the worse things that can strike us during this crucial first date is a phenomenon called dating shyness. You know what I’m taking about. You sit across an attractive woman, not knowing what to say, looking uncomfortable, underdressed or maybe even overdressed for the date, all the while witnessing the date go from bad to worse.
First dates and blind dates put a lot of pressure on us. Women expect us to take charge from the get go. Handling a situation with a lot of unknowns is hard enough without dating shyness to paralize us. So, here are 21 tips to help you keep the jitters away:
- Do your homework. Learn all you can about your date in advance. If it’s something that your friend has set up, try to get information about her. Where does she work, how old is she, what kind of food or activities does she enjoy. Try to learn as much about her background as you can. Limiting the unknowns is always a good strategy to combat dating shyness.
- Choose a venue that you are familiar with. Whenever possible, choose the terms of the date and be the one to make the reservations. Not only will you score points by taking charge, you also get to choose a place that you are already familiar with.
- Visualize the outcome of your date. It helps to be mentally prepared. Visualizing how your date will go, what you’re going to talk about, that she’ll be reacting positively, and that you’ll end it perfectly is a good way to condition yourself for a rocking evening.
- Initiate contact before the date. Calling your date a few days before your date to say hi, to give her the details of where you’ll meet, and to tell her that you look forward to a great evening with her will help ease the jitters. Keep it short and sweet though. This move shows confidence on your part, and sets the tone for a great date.
- Try to get enough sleep the night before your date. You don’t want to be too sleepy or too tired to focus on your date. It helps to make sure you are in tip top shape – physically and mentally.
- Choose an appropriate outfit. Being overdressed or underdressed can really affect your confidence level. Now that you’ve chosen the venue, make sure that you choose clothes that are appropriate to the activities you’ve planned for the date. Not sure about your choice? Ask a friend to help you out, or better yet, seek the assistance of fashion consultants that you find in some department stores. They can help you pick out clothes that will look great on you.
Read the rest of the tips here 21 tips to overcome dating shyness
You can really reduce your shyness and increase your comfort zone greatly by following those 21 tips every time before you leave for your date. The more you know the more relaxed and fun you will be. She will feel it and be relaxed and comfortable around you.
Which is the key. If you are uncomfortable, she will be noticing and it makes her uncomfortable. Avoid this! You want to be fun, have fun and enjoy the whole evening.
How To Use Humor to Attract A Woman
Most guys still think that looks are everything in dating and if you aren’t good looking it is hopeless. You will be stuck with dating 4′s and 5′s! Well if you think that way, that is what happens. Women are attracted to deeper things than we are. Guys go by looks first it is the way we are wired.
Women are looking at your attributes and value more than your looks. If you show your value by demonstrating the attributes she finds attractive, attraction to you builds automatically. She can’t control this.
Using humor (major attribute) to make her feel emotions and have fun is one way to get her attracted to you regardless of your looks.
Here is a great article on Attracting Girls Through Humor from artofapproaching.com.
A lot of guys really get caught up with their “looks” when it comes to attracting women.
They think only “good looking guys” can get girls into them. However, they’re only focusing on ONE SMALL ASPECT of attraction.
See, men place a large importance on physical attractiveness because that’s what initially attracts us to women – their looks.
So we assume that women must be attracted to our looks as well!
Now, I’m not going to tell you that your physical appearance plays no role in whether or not a woman finds you attractive, because it does.
But it isn’t as IMPORTANT as you might think it is.
To women, physical appearance is only a SMALL FACTOR when it comes to attraction. (Sure, there are exceptions, but for the most part, I’ve found this to be the case.)
A bigger factor in a woman’s attraction to a man is how he can make her FEEL.
Understand – women are emotional creatures. They’re more hard-wired to respond emotionally than men are. This is just how nature made them.
If you can appeal to her EMOTIONALLY, even if you’re not her “physical type,” you can still attract her.
And nothing creates emotion more powerful than HUMOR.
So let’s talk about how you can use humor to attract women to you…
First of all, let me just get something straight with you: YOU DO NOT NEED TO BE FUNNY TO USE HUMOR!
Yes, I know, that might sound confusing. Let me explain…
A big obstacle most guys run into with using humor is that limiting belief: “But I’m just not that funny!”
However, this means they don’t really know what “humor” means to begin with.
See, “Humor” is a state of mind. It’s an attitude. It’s about being positive, not about being funny.
“Funny” is a verb to describe something you do. “Humor” is meant to describe what you’re experiencing.
So when I talk about using “humor,” I’m really talking about using fun, positive energy to excite and inspire people around you.
And most of the time, that will make the people around you laugh, joke, and have a good time!
So get the idea out of your head that you need to be funny to use humor. It’s just not the case!
Instead, you should focus on the following things… read the rest here
Attracting Girls Through Humor
If you use humor in your interactions, more women will find themselves attracted to you. They will want to spend more time with you which is door number one to reach with any woman.
Make her laugh, get her engaged and wanting more.
Wanting more is Attraction. You will actually feel it when she is in the moment with you.
So forget what you look like, if you can use a little bit of humor in every approach your odds of success will go way up. You can not change what you look like, but you can totally change how you interact with women. Don’t be a clown non stop but use some humor to get through her shields and have some fun.
