Often times, we find ourselves attracted to people who are different from us. Is it because they are a breath of fresh air? Is it because we tend to want things we do not have? Or is this attraction limited to a certain extent?

Can stark contrasts in persona’s result to a failed marriage? Can it become a convenient excuse for a change of heart? Let us scrutinize two couples, John and Victoria, on opposite poles, and Jason and Christine, very much on the same page.

John and Victoria, when they were introduced at a party, instantly connected to each other. No sooner after exchanging phone numbers, they began dating. Victoria fancied the way John was so adept at the use of computers, which is totally not her. He may be frequently late, but she never minded this. What she focused on was discovering new things about him. Eventually however, and as expected, the early flames of passions soon began to cool down. Known for being punctual, Victoria soon began to be ticked off by Johns lack for regard of time.

He, on the other hand, began feeling the pangs of her nagging about his constant tardiness. To top it off, she wondered why he never thought of giving her golf gifts, given the fact that she is a golf lover and a collector of golf items. But how could John have thought of this? He was never into sports, and so would not understand the joys of collecting sports-related keepsakes. In relation to all these, Victoria doubts if John will ever get around to giving her a solitaire engagement ring and propose marriage.

At the same party, Jason and Christine were also introduced. That was that. However, they ended up seeing each other weekly because of a bowling tournament they joined. Having common friends, they would have coffee before going home. They started having practice games to warm up before the tournament starts. Jason grew to enjoy Christine’s company. They had much more to talk about. Unlike his former girlfriend, Christine shared his love for the sport; and so understood why he spent so much time and money on bowling.

Between the two couple, who would better welcome early pregnancy signs? The couple that slowly drifted apart because the differences went unnoticed at the onset, John and Victoria? Or Jason and Christine, the pair that did not hit it at first, but over the course of time, fell for each other as they realized how alike they were?

For any relationship to flourish, couples need to spend time together. They need to appreciate one another; and know that they are being appreciated too. If you ask me, Jason and Christine will probably have better chances of a long and happy future together.

Everything starts with chemistry. If this chemistry is the initial physical attraction between two people, it must be sustained by common principles and common character traits. Otherwise, it will eventually fade away.

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