Bars and night-clubs are venues where people go to meet those of the opposite sex. Although a woman may present her agenda as going out ‘dancing’ with her friends, she is there specifically for the potential of a meeting with a suitable male. Her agenda- and her friends- are there to protect her from the many unsuitable males who may present themselves through the course of an evening.

Given this, a woman will often pursue her subconscious agenda of meeting a male she finds attractive by making it easier for him to approach her. Usually she does this through proximity- she stands or sits close to the male she likes. Sometimes her interest will manifest itself more explicitly as an ‘invitation to approach’, which may take the form of a smile, prolonged eye contact, or an actual verbal introduction. The first step in the art of approaching women is for the male to develop a sensitivity for these female ploys, many of which may- understandably, for fear of rejection- be rather subtle.

Even without any invitations to approach, men should be able to quickly generate interest from scratch by observing a few social rules in the venue. The first of these is known as the “three-second rule”, where a man ensures the spontaneity of his intitial contact with a group of strangers by approaching that group within three seconds of first seeing them. There may be occasions when this is impractical, but in general this is a useful rule of thumb because it gets the man outside of his head, and within a short time of entering the venue he should have engaged a decent proportion of people there. He will no longer be a stranger, but very much part of the party.

A man who is having fun, talking to a lot of people, and generating a good energy about himself, is creating what we call ‘positive social proof’. People’s- and especially girls’- radars pick up on this, and he may find more approach invitations coming his way, or sets he opens opening more easily. On the other hand, a man who is walking around the venue in a predatory way, not smiling, or standing with his friends checking out from a distance potential targets often generates negative social proof. People see him as uncomfortable and avoid him.

Practising working a venue is the foundation stone for any successful pick-up artist, and it should become a fun and indispensable ingredient of his social toolkit. Go out, have fun, and be positive with people, and the positive rewards will be commensurate.

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You have to be totally secure, if you feel like it isn’t going to go well, it wont.

Approach directly and fast, Don’t stand there thinking. See her, decide you want to go and talk to her and move in. The 3 second rule is good to follow, it shows you are sure of yourself.

Don’t look at her for 5 minutes before you walk over. Spot her, and then move so it will make perfect sense why you are walking by. You don’t have to keep looking at her, just a quick look, see what she is doing and who she is with.

Next, pull yourself together, ideally you will have already been talking to other people so you are warmed up a little.

The approach needs an opener. Situationals are best, make it an easy one that you know works. Approach her to within a few feet at an angle, don’t confront her aiming right at her. Get her attention and say your opener. Get her laughing about something that is going on around her.

Don’t lean in, stay upright, you are just making conversation. Use good eye contact and smile. See what she is up to, make a joke, a light tease about something she is wearing is good.

You are a cool, calm and strong man, act like it. It doesn’t even matter if she likes you or not. You are just having fun and finding out a little about her.

Involve her friends but she should be your obvious target. But keep her guessing a little. Watch her reactions and gauge your next move. Let her get involved in the conversation and start giving you some indicators of interest. Then you reward her with small amounts of approval mixed with reasons why you two will never get along.

This opener doesn’t need to be more than 2 or 3 minutes long. Just say, ” hey nice chatting but I have to go find my friends” “Catch you later”

Wander off and go back to her a little later and start vibing with her. Just chat and get her into you.

Secrets to atracting and approaching women:

1. Body Language
2. Eye Contact
3. Humor
4. Be expressive – use your emotions to get her emotional
5. Don’t over stay
6. Social Proof – be seen talking to and having fun with other women
7. Be having a good time and not too serious
8. Vibe like it is no big deal
9. Well dressed – great shoes, great grooming
10. Don’t ask 20 questions, make statements about things
11. You don’t need her approval
12. Don’t be too eager or too into her at the start – lean back

Some great tips to get you more women in your life.

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